Tuesday, July 17, 2007
Appearence of Desire (Part 1)
Anatomy of Missing
Drinking coke
There is a certain pleasure while being alone, in behaving or doing something in a way that the loved object enjoys (e.g. drinking coke when one does not usually fancy it). By absorbing the other’s pleasure as one’s own, one enjoys a momentary union of the bodies of the self and the other.
More surrogates
The attraction of the “bad boy” (a.k.a “bastard”) as a loved object consist in: wishing to go against general expectations of decorum; embracing one’s primitive instincts; being gently reminded of one’s abusive or negligent father, and, secretly desiring to tame both of them at once.
Rigor Mortis
The lover who fixes his relative role in the relationship will feel something amiss when the other behaves outside of his designated role. For example, the lover who usually plays the role of the “father figure” to his more “child like” partner may panic when the latter suddenly behaves “fatherly” such as being logical, disciplinarian, silent or calm. When this happens, the sense of relative superiority that he has always been in possession of falters.
Surrogate Mothers
We spend our entire life seeking surrogate mothers. In some of us or at times, these could come in the form of dates, flings or even eventual partners. In others or at times, we ourselves play surrogate mothers, especially when someone reminds us of having being left alone. The desire for the other comprises, in part, the wish to console the child who panicked upon the discovering his mother was missing.
I can't help but agree to these. Do you?
I wrote to you
11:11 PM
